In Memory of Ruth Goldsmith (1923-2009)

My mother passed away on November 4, 2009, after having sustained a fall two weeks earlier.  We both flew to New York for a few days to attend her funeral and mourn with our family. 

A few days prior to our trip, the Mexican had observed a holiday they call El Día de Muertos, or the Day of the Dead.  It’s a day that serves several purposes – remembering family members who had died, honoring heroes of the past, but, most significantly, recognizing that death is a part of our everyday reality. 

In some ways, the Mexicans make fun of death on this holiday.  There are stalls in the main square where they sell calaveras, which are little chocolate skulls, and small coffins made of sugar.  It’s a day that has its origins in pre-Colombian times and a way for people to celebrate life while accepting the inevitability of its end.

I mention this to remind ourselves that this is the time to honor my mother’s life and remember the good times that we had with her.


2 Responses to “In Memory of Ruth Goldsmith (1923-2009)”

  1. Alan Eisen Says:


    I’m so sorry to hear about the death of your mother. My mother died earlier this year and I know how difficult it can be. I hope you and your family are doing well and send you my sincerest sympathies.

  2. Catherine Brousseau Says:

    Charles, what a shock that your mother died so quickly. My heart goes out to you and your family. Such an experience really puts things in focus, expecially impermanence. How wonderful that you framed her passing as a celebration of her living and giving. Sutta Study meets tonight…a time when I always remember you. Blessings to you and Juile and your new abode! Catherine

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